my best friend's wedding

every close knit group of girl friends (which for me consists of a small-ish number of the most amazing girls anywhere) have had that oh-so-funny discussion about who will be the first one to walk down the aisle. according to my mother, the girl everyone thought would be the first to go usually doesn't at all -- they are the ones who are destined to be the perennial old maid. in our case, we were all right on the money. funnily enough jin is not the most romantically inclined, no great lover of sappy romcoms, or one to speak obssessively about her future wedding as if it were the single greatest event ever in history next to the fall of the berlin wall.

quite the opposite actually.

jinny was the one who was consistently pragmatic about relationships, marriage and all that comes with it. she could give you viewpoints that most women couldn't even wrap their heads around. she is romantic but sensibly so -- never one to expose her inner feelings to the whole world, the way i often do to even to people who don't give a rat's ass.

jinny & alex's serendipitous meeting is one that most women can only hope and dream would happen to them. in fact, you could probably write an incredibly romantic, though entirely unbelivable screenplay based on their chance meeting. i told jinny it's fate, destiny, roses & rainbows! jin gave me a hard look and said 'no honey, it's just love.'

so my best friend is now a mrs. in typical style i was more nervous than she -- jinny single handedly planned this wedding on her own in just a few month's time while her useless maid-of-honour camped out selfishly in london. i have had several moments of 'i am the worst maid of honour ever of all time', not quite ready to accept that my best friend for the last 14 years will soon be a smug married, while i the perennial singleton 'try to convince myself i'm ok being alone' (my flatmate's words, not mine! haha)

the truth is, i was just as excited for jinny's nuptials as she was. perhaps even more so, because in general i am much more excitable than she. i am thankful i get to live it all through her -- the wedding, future pregnancy, followed by the birth of her first daughter whom she will undoubtedly name after me! she is like the big sister i never had, and the truth is as i'm still undecided whether it's something i foresee in my future or not, how better than to watch my best friend go through these passages in her beautiful life with joy in my heart?

dearest jinny & alex -- i wish you both all the happiness that this world & beyond has to offer..

x